Luyanda is part of the SmilingOne Inmate Responsibilty Coach Team in Worcester Prison
WORKSHOP: ‘TOLERANCE’
Luyanda's Notes:
Life is so amazing because who we are is always brought to the fore by our backgrounds. And this has/is playing a major role in the manner in which we do and perceive things. This is bringing the realization that everything we do there is a meaning behind it. That is what makes life so great. Simply because one has meaning/a purpose to live for in this beautiful universe.
To reflect upon the manner in which we do things, you will find that the word tolerance we give meaning to it in different ways. How we react or act in its meaning differ as well. Nowadays you will find that we as individuals do not easily tolerate each other due to differences such as religion, race, beliefs, personalities, status, moral/values, background and how we do things in life. And this has lead to communities, organisations, companies and individuals to change their visions and their focus in life. The result is that we end up discriminating each other.
Being who you are is influenced by your values. The choices we make based upon these are the ones that determine our journey. Therefore for me to understand the meaning which I am giving the word ‘Tolerance’ is solely made possible by understanding that in life we are all unique, we are different in colours, backgrounds, religion, faith, race, morals/values and the manner in which we do things.
I take a closer look at the manner in which I personally used to do things, and the meaning I gave to the environment which I was surrounded by (and peoples circumstances also). I grew up regarding an individual which did not have the colour of my skin as one not to be trusted. Also those who did not share my belief or religion I operated away from. The same counted if we did not share the same faith. Personalities and values automatically differed. The slight possibility of me being positive, open for learning, exploring and accepting you as a beautiful being that brought light in my journey – there was no room for at all. I was ignorant, ego and pride driven, jealous and always held a grudge. Those were dominant aspects in my life.
Even on my arrival in the project called Group of Hope I experienced the same. I met guys that shared the same personalities that I had. Distrust, hatred, jealousy, ignorance and grudge. This created a situation whereby we focused on other people’s personalities instead of the groups shared vision and mission... To allow yourself to be exposed in such a situation is very much important.
Today I realize that the understanding of myself, where I come from, what I do and perceive is important for my growth. And everyone I meet with same or different belief, race, culture, religion, faith, personality and moral/values are part of the beautiful soul I am today. Because I am ONE with everyone/everything in this universe.
Lack of understanding led me to take everything very personally, to discriminate, not to trust people and to have fear of certain situations on my journey, to be one–dimensional in how I perceived/related to things in life, to cause tension wherever I was, to shift people’s minds from their goals and vision in life, to make everything about myself, not accepting/allowing people into my life...
I have truly achieved a lot just by accepting/allowing everyone and their belief, their race, their culture, their personality, their background and moral/values. I became patient with myself and with other people. I realized that being a responsible individual asked of me to have a mission and a vision in life and to always live a life by my core values which of course are the very core of my well being.
Today I make sure that whatever I do is motivated by love, compassion and caring which are some of my core values. Each decision I make is inspired by them. And this is what I encourage my fellow individuals to live by - to have a purpose in life. I seek to create a situation based on trust at all times. Because as the one in charge of my personal journey I enjoy/walk/talk responsibly and I offer a hand in guidance to others to be responsible of their journey. I love being this person that I am.
Experience is a hard teacher – she gives the test first and the lesson afterwards. This experience has helped me a lot because now I can relate to and guide with understanding of where I come from and where I am heading to in my journey. Life is a journey. Tolerance is one of the steps of learning on this journey – combined with understanding, allowance and acceptance.
With much Love & Light
LUYANDA MBONISWA
From Brian Anene's Case Study
Coach Student in Brandvlei Maximum
"...For anyone to live in prison for too long without proper rehabilitation, then there is no good and self assurance that this person will live a responsible and sustainable life out there where you wake up in the morning with lots of challenges to face. So the number one option is SELF REHABILITATION which starts with ME by knowing my own very self, what I life for and the reason for my rehabilitation. Then everything can make more sense to me. If a person remember where his mistakes started, that's where his corrections will be appreciated!"
"...I met one guy that wanted me to introduce him to this programme. I took his name for quite some time and I told him to please be patient so we can check on the space that is available. He agreed and said that he is going to be patient. When ever I saw him he looked at me and I could feel how anxious he was, wanting to join this programme. So on the 2nd of January I called him. I had THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL book and indemnity form in my hand. I looked for a cool and quite place to sit with him because I wanted to introduce him to the programme. We greeted. I asked him why he wanted to join the responsible individual programme and if someone told him about it. He said, Oh! No, I just want to join the programme coz I know it is going to help me change my life. I have seen some guys whom I know. They are busy with the programme and they are example for me. Their life has changed so much. So I have my reason to join, he said."
Stunning testimonies!!!
LOVING ACTION for our beautiful South Africa!
"...For anyone to live in prison for too long without proper rehabilitation, then there is no good and self assurance that this person will live a responsible and sustainable life out there where you wake up in the morning with lots of challenges to face. So the number one option is SELF REHABILITATION which starts with ME by knowing my own very self, what I life for and the reason for my rehabilitation. Then everything can make more sense to me. If a person remember where his mistakes started, that's where his corrections will be appreciated!"
"...I met one guy that wanted me to introduce him to this programme. I took his name for quite some time and I told him to please be patient so we can check on the space that is available. He agreed and said that he is going to be patient. When ever I saw him he looked at me and I could feel how anxious he was, wanting to join this programme. So on the 2nd of January I called him. I had THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL book and indemnity form in my hand. I looked for a cool and quite place to sit with him because I wanted to introduce him to the programme. We greeted. I asked him why he wanted to join the responsible individual programme and if someone told him about it. He said, Oh! No, I just want to join the programme coz I know it is going to help me change my life. I have seen some guys whom I know. They are busy with the programme and they are example for me. Their life has changed so much. So I have my reason to join, he said."
Stunning testimonies!!!
LOVING ACTION for our beautiful South Africa!
TRANSPARANCY
Meeghan and I had a very productive meeting today at Goodwood Medium Prison. Part of partnering with DCS in rehabilitation is to do comprehensive and clear reporting, daily, monthly and quarterly. We received all the new and updated annexures today. They are very clear and will assist us to track attendance of our programme participants. We are excited to add the new annexures to our reporting.
And we look forward to continue working hand in hand with DCS and to take LOVING ACTION for our beautiful South Africa!
And we look forward to continue working hand in hand with DCS and to take LOVING ACTION for our beautiful South Africa!
Back at Goodwood Prison
We are BACK!!! I must say that 6 weeks is a looooong time away from something you enjoy so much. Even if the holidays were wonderful it is GREAT to be back!
Meeghan and I had such inspiring sessions today. In our first 2hour session we had 14 participants (including Welcome and Louis who are in coach training) and another14 participants in our second 2hour session.
The guys were excited to start the year off diving deeper into their journeys of self discovery and to walk the change they had welcomed into their lives. What stood very clear for me today was CHOICE: each one coming today CHOSE to be there... simply because they had chosen to make themselves a priority. It was stunning to see their commitment to SELF and the process.
For myself - I feel so energized and so RICH after our sessions. Lots of windows were opened in the circles - lots of gifts for my journey of Guidance and Learning.
I look forward to update you weekly on our processes within the Goodwood Prison! Watch this space ; )
IN GRATITUDE
Karina
Meeghan and I had such inspiring sessions today. In our first 2hour session we had 14 participants (including Welcome and Louis who are in coach training) and another14 participants in our second 2hour session.
The guys were excited to start the year off diving deeper into their journeys of self discovery and to walk the change they had welcomed into their lives. What stood very clear for me today was CHOICE: each one coming today CHOSE to be there... simply because they had chosen to make themselves a priority. It was stunning to see their commitment to SELF and the process.
For myself - I feel so energized and so RICH after our sessions. Lots of windows were opened in the circles - lots of gifts for my journey of Guidance and Learning.
I look forward to update you weekly on our processes within the Goodwood Prison! Watch this space ; )
IN GRATITUDE
Karina
Inspiring Journeys
A stunning day of sharing and caring in Prison. So good to be back with our team of inmates (coaches n students). They are sooooo geared for 2011 and have a clear vision on how to take SmilingOne - The Responsible Individual to an even bigger audience inside prison this year.
I am right now reading some of the letters given to me by our coach students in Brandvlei Maximum Prison. Collin Duda shares: "The first step in my life-changing journey was the hardest and one I had to do on my own. By the Power of Sharing I was injected with a Change of Attitude and a Wave of Knowledge filled me. Since then I never look back... I keep on looking deeper into myself... and I fell IN LOVE with myself..."
♥ W O W ♥
I am in AWE of their sharing and feel so proud to walk the journey with them!
We are LOVING ACTION for our beautiful South Africa
IN GRATITUDE
Karina
I am right now reading some of the letters given to me by our coach students in Brandvlei Maximum Prison. Collin Duda shares: "The first step in my life-changing journey was the hardest and one I had to do on my own. By the Power of Sharing I was injected with a Change of Attitude and a Wave of Knowledge filled me. Since then I never look back... I keep on looking deeper into myself... and I fell IN LOVE with myself..."
♥ W O W ♥
I am in AWE of their sharing and feel so proud to walk the journey with them!
We are LOVING ACTION for our beautiful South Africa
IN GRATITUDE
Karina
Prison Processes to start again
Prison Processes to begin again!
I am preparing for tomorrows prison process, looking through submitted writings of our course participants inside prison. I am so touched by the sharing. Lumkile writes:
"We learn from our challenges. Especially when they press our button. 'Button' helps me to notice where I am stuck. Then I start to realize I have a responsibility to explore challenge and what it means to my life."
I am excited about starting our prison processes again for 2011. The holiday has been wonderful (enjoying 'empty spaces') - however, being back in action is GREAT! I know that our team inside is excited too. The festive season and the long holiday December/January is always quite a stretch and also a challenging time inside prison. To be back in session is so fruitful for all of us!
IN GRATITUDE
Karina
I am preparing for tomorrows prison process, looking through submitted writings of our course participants inside prison. I am so touched by the sharing. Lumkile writes:
"We learn from our challenges. Especially when they press our button. 'Button' helps me to notice where I am stuck. Then I start to realize I have a responsibility to explore challenge and what it means to my life."
I am excited about starting our prison processes again for 2011. The holiday has been wonderful (enjoying 'empty spaces') - however, being back in action is GREAT! I know that our team inside is excited too. The festive season and the long holiday December/January is always quite a stretch and also a challenging time inside prison. To be back in session is so fruitful for all of us!
IN GRATITUDE
Karina
Vulnerability is my Strength
A stunning and touching day in Prison with our team of SmilingOne Coaches n Students - inmates in Brandvlei Maximum and Worcester Medium Prisons.
They gifted me with the most beautiful letters...
They gifted me with the most beautiful letters...
A stunning painting...
AND another life-changing session. Our theme today in both Brandvlei Max and Worcester Medium: Vulnerability and how it can be turned into our greatest Strength!
MY VULNERABILITY
My Heart Knows
used to be what I feared the most
used to be what I could not face
used to be what I called weak
IT FELT SO MUCH EASIER
TO ESCAPE
I was trying to be somebody else
trying to hide behind masks
covering up the scars
of my past
I WAS TOO SCARED
What I did not know
What I did not understand
MY VULNERABILITY WAS THERE TO TEACH ME
That beyond fear lies love
Beyond weakness lies strength
Beyond separateness lies wholeness
BEYOND...
I chose to risk to be guided
by what I feared the most
MY VULNERABILITY
Standing naked
Not knowing
Listening
...
I felt like
coming
home
I suddenly realized
...
MY HEART
KNOWS
MY HEART
KNOWS
WOW.... what a Day! I feel so RICH!!! I am in AWE of the process and all of these beautiful souls who have 'taken the risk' to change and now are walking truly remarkable paths of responsible living. And yes, it does seem like risk when all you know is crime, when you are feeling hurt and alone. They are today inspiring change inside prison - simply by attending to their own healing, by walking their talk and leading by their own living example!
REMARKABLE!
In Gratitude
Karina
REMARKABLE!
In Gratitude
Karina
Young Men building a brighter future for themselves
I am in AWE and deeply touched after a STUNNING Certificate Ceremony at the Youth Correctional Centre in Brandvlei today. The Juvenile Participants showcased a REMARKABLE understanding of THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL.... both through authentic testimonies and a drama using elements of their strengthened toolboxes!The seed was planted three years ago in Brandvlei Maximum Prison. From the first initial group of 14 inmates - 5 decided to pursue the Responsibility Coach Education. They took hundreds of clients through the process and 10 of their clients decided beginning of 2010 to become coach students as well; Franklin was one of them. After he transferred to Medium in July 2010 and got involved in the BASIC RADIO project at the Youth Correctional Centre he committed himself to take the Juveniles (all learning about Radio Broadcasting as well) through the journey of THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL. September they started their first Circles of Sharing... TODAY 7 of them graduated PART 1 and the class will in January continue with PART 2 of the course.
Our initiative in the Brandvlei Youth Correctional Centre, in Brandvlei Maximum and also in the Worcester Male Prison is supported and sponsored by SHOUT (financial support for facilitation/eduation of our coach student team, and fuel cost) and THORP MOTOR GROUP (ensuring that we can drive to the prisons - they have availed a Chrevrolet SPARK)
I would also like to thank AD for sponsoring food at our event today, Pearl for the yummy cake, our SmilingOne Programme Coordinators Ridwaan and JP, Brandvlei Management and all who so lovingly support us!
I am deeply grateful for all the helping hands that makes the SmilingOne Initiative a stunning success!
Strong Partnerships in Rehabilitation
November 23rd and 24th we attended a two days truly remarkable dialogue in a regional meeting with the 11 DCS management areas in the Western Cape, lead by Regional Head of Development and Care Ms Kokong.
We arrived at the Drakenstein Prison where we were invited to present the impact that we as SmilingOne (with our programme/process THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL) have had the past three years within DCS.
The impact was evident as we arrived that morning. An inmate was busy polishing the statue of Madiba at the entrance to the prison. After we took the photo (above) he asked me: 'Are you Karine?' He repeated his question. I replied and he then continued: 'I was in Goodwood Prison. I got the book. I have it with me.' What a stunning welcome to a prison where we have not yet been with the process - well at least not officially. This man has however brought it with him. Because it meant something special to him.
As we made the presentation that morning on the 23rd to the 11 management areas we highlighted this special meeting at our arrival. And even if our statistics show that we had 104 Graduates and 20 Coaches/Students within our programme the past few years there are several hundreds inmates who have benefitted. Yes, they may not have 'graduated' due to certain circumstances - like this inmate who was transferred to Drakenstein. Each one is still a huge success. Each one with a very special journey. One never knows what a single moment, a few weeks or months can do in a persons life. This inmate was a wonderful testimony of exactly this.
Over the two days we heard quite a few presentation from other stakeholders / service providers who operate within DCS in one or more of the management areas. It was fruitful to learn about their approaches, their achievements and also their challenges. Each challenge is an opportunity for learning and growth.
We were in awe of the dialogue that DCS invited us into. There was a genuine interest to learn from all of us and to renew the vows of the partnerships in rehabilitation, walking in unity as we build a safe and healthy South Africa.
We feel truly proud that we as SmilingOne walk in partnership with DCS. We have the through those two days strengthened this partnership, we have build bridges and connected with wonderful people within the department. We enjoyed the openness, the willingness to learn and grow and the re-commitment from everyone's side.
Also a special thanks goes to Ms Kokong. SmilingOne will now go through the Regional Clearance to expand beyond the four prisons where we are currently active (Brandvlei Maximum Prison, Brandvlei Juvenile, Goodwood Medium and our latest is Worcester Medium - just got the green light).
And a special thanks to Mr. Freddie Engelbrecht - deputy regional commissioner (picture).
We arrived at the Drakenstein Prison where we were invited to present the impact that we as SmilingOne (with our programme/process THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL) have had the past three years within DCS.
The impact was evident as we arrived that morning. An inmate was busy polishing the statue of Madiba at the entrance to the prison. After we took the photo (above) he asked me: 'Are you Karine?' He repeated his question. I replied and he then continued: 'I was in Goodwood Prison. I got the book. I have it with me.' What a stunning welcome to a prison where we have not yet been with the process - well at least not officially. This man has however brought it with him. Because it meant something special to him.
As we made the presentation that morning on the 23rd to the 11 management areas we highlighted this special meeting at our arrival. And even if our statistics show that we had 104 Graduates and 20 Coaches/Students within our programme the past few years there are several hundreds inmates who have benefitted. Yes, they may not have 'graduated' due to certain circumstances - like this inmate who was transferred to Drakenstein. Each one is still a huge success. Each one with a very special journey. One never knows what a single moment, a few weeks or months can do in a persons life. This inmate was a wonderful testimony of exactly this.
Over the two days we heard quite a few presentation from other stakeholders / service providers who operate within DCS in one or more of the management areas. It was fruitful to learn about their approaches, their achievements and also their challenges. Each challenge is an opportunity for learning and growth.
We were in awe of the dialogue that DCS invited us into. There was a genuine interest to learn from all of us and to renew the vows of the partnerships in rehabilitation, walking in unity as we build a safe and healthy South Africa.
We feel truly proud that we as SmilingOne walk in partnership with DCS. We have the through those two days strengthened this partnership, we have build bridges and connected with wonderful people within the department. We enjoyed the openness, the willingness to learn and grow and the re-commitment from everyone's side.
Also a special thanks goes to Ms Kokong. SmilingOne will now go through the Regional Clearance to expand beyond the four prisons where we are currently active (Brandvlei Maximum Prison, Brandvlei Juvenile, Goodwood Medium and our latest is Worcester Medium - just got the green light).
And a special thanks to Mr. Freddie Engelbrecht - deputy regional commissioner (picture).
We look forward to keep everyone posted on the journey as we continue living our passion in SmilingOne - sharing SMILES and touching HEARTS ; ) We are soon starting our fourth year in the partnership with DCS. It is a privilege!
In Gratitude
Karina Andersen
Founder & Trustee
The SmilingOne Foundation
CERTIFICATE CEREMONY in Brandvlei Maximum Prison
October 6th 2010
LOVING ACTION for our beautiful country South Africa.
The SmilingOne Foundation, our strong team of Responsibility Coaches, Students and their clients, Prison Management & Officials, SmilingOne Founder Karina Andersen and guests Vaughan McGee (SmilingOne Re-integration), Nicole Wagner and Nadia Lubowski were celebrating journeys of change and responsible living within Brandvlei Maximum Prison.
THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL has been facilitated since January 2008 within the prison. 4 fully qualified coaches, 10 coach students and a handful of clients (hundreds) have come out of this process so far (and activated the process in another 3 prisons due to transfers)... and we are still going strong : )
If you doubt that change is possible... you gotta experience this process. It will take you BEYOND...
LOVING ACTION for our beautiful country South Africa.
The SmilingOne Foundation, our strong team of Responsibility Coaches, Students and their clients, Prison Management & Officials, SmilingOne Founder Karina Andersen and guests Vaughan McGee (SmilingOne Re-integration), Nicole Wagner and Nadia Lubowski were celebrating journeys of change and responsible living within Brandvlei Maximum Prison.
THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL has been facilitated since January 2008 within the prison. 4 fully qualified coaches, 10 coach students and a handful of clients (hundreds) have come out of this process so far (and activated the process in another 3 prisons due to transfers)... and we are still going strong : )
If you doubt that change is possible... you gotta experience this process. It will take you BEYOND...
THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL™ - My journey thus far...
By Welcome Dennis Witbooi (Responsibility Coach™ Student)
If anyone had asked me a few years ago what I thought about the meaning of responsibility, I would probably have said “No comment”. However, today, being part and member of the responsible individual process, I have so much to share. Like anyone I know, my life too has been plagued by many disappointments and long series of interwoven processes. My journey has not been without difficulty, whether it being personally, spiritually or even emotionally, but it was through these experiences that I am now able to learn, let go, and to overcome my fears. As a responsible individual I am free to form loving relationships, inspire change and continue to discover and learn of myself.
For many years I was trapped in the system of believing that I was incapable of loving. It took me a long time to realize that I was able to love, and to be loved in return, but this realization would not have been possible if I had not made the choice to be part of this process – The Responsible Individual...
The process is difficult at times, and there were many occasions when I personally and emotionally felt like running away, and I almost did. I did not want to dealt with or acknowledge my past experiences and neither did I want to acknowledge the people involved in my life as gifts. With support and guidance I was allowed to express how I felt, even thought it was hurting. My tears were instrumental in the reconstruction of my self-identity and provided me with the opportunity to heal.
The experience of meeting myself face to face, and dealing with the various degrees of my personality, disabling defence mechanisms and making space for self actualization and learning. This has added value to my journey. Instead of surviving, I am living, loving and learning.
What makes the process so special?
Inside prison it forms part of the Offender Rehabilitation Path and identifies, deals and addresses the factors concerning offender development. This process allows offenders the opportunity to fully participate in their own responsible and rehabilitation process. Participants are responsible for their own processing, and are gently guided to find their own answers. This process compliments the vision of the Department of Correctional Services by promoting offender development in the following areas: personal, spiritual, psychological, educational and also guides in community and family re-integration.
In my almost three years participation and involvement in this process I have developed an understanding and learning. I have also in this time formulated great friendships and family ties. I have achieved a lot of growth spiritually, educationally and personally.
I am currently training as a Responsibility Coach™ and believe me there are moment when I doubt whether I am able to guide others – but with continued guidance I am learning as I walk my journey of Responsibility...
Welcome Dennis Witbooi 200160311
Worcester Correctional Centre 21.06.2010
If anyone had asked me a few years ago what I thought about the meaning of responsibility, I would probably have said “No comment”. However, today, being part and member of the responsible individual process, I have so much to share. Like anyone I know, my life too has been plagued by many disappointments and long series of interwoven processes. My journey has not been without difficulty, whether it being personally, spiritually or even emotionally, but it was through these experiences that I am now able to learn, let go, and to overcome my fears. As a responsible individual I am free to form loving relationships, inspire change and continue to discover and learn of myself.
For many years I was trapped in the system of believing that I was incapable of loving. It took me a long time to realize that I was able to love, and to be loved in return, but this realization would not have been possible if I had not made the choice to be part of this process – The Responsible Individual...
The process is difficult at times, and there were many occasions when I personally and emotionally felt like running away, and I almost did. I did not want to dealt with or acknowledge my past experiences and neither did I want to acknowledge the people involved in my life as gifts. With support and guidance I was allowed to express how I felt, even thought it was hurting. My tears were instrumental in the reconstruction of my self-identity and provided me with the opportunity to heal.
The experience of meeting myself face to face, and dealing with the various degrees of my personality, disabling defence mechanisms and making space for self actualization and learning. This has added value to my journey. Instead of surviving, I am living, loving and learning.
What makes the process so special?
Inside prison it forms part of the Offender Rehabilitation Path and identifies, deals and addresses the factors concerning offender development. This process allows offenders the opportunity to fully participate in their own responsible and rehabilitation process. Participants are responsible for their own processing, and are gently guided to find their own answers. This process compliments the vision of the Department of Correctional Services by promoting offender development in the following areas: personal, spiritual, psychological, educational and also guides in community and family re-integration.
In my almost three years participation and involvement in this process I have developed an understanding and learning. I have also in this time formulated great friendships and family ties. I have achieved a lot of growth spiritually, educationally and personally.
I am currently training as a Responsibility Coach™ and believe me there are moment when I doubt whether I am able to guide others – but with continued guidance I am learning as I walk my journey of Responsibility...
Welcome Dennis Witbooi 200160311
Worcester Correctional Centre 21.06.2010
Members Manual for 'Activation of THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL in a correctional institution'
It has been another exciting month with four active prison programmes and our newest exciting challenge with creating a manual of guidelines for DCS members, who will be assigned to THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL inside prison as SmilingOne Programme Coordinators.
We have four Wednesdays in a row been brainstorming the ingredients hand in hand with the two newly assigned SmilingOne Programme Coordinators in Worcester Men's Prison and the Coach/Student team that was recently transferred to the Medium Correctional Facility.
The most exciting thing about this is that will assist to build a platform where inmates and DCS members work hand in hand, heart by heart and making a difference TOGETHER!
Change happens on many different levels. It begins with the individual embracing his/her responsibility. It is important with opportunities and channels to practice the change... to be given a chance to bring 'theory' into experience... this is how we learn to walk our talk. This members manual of guidelines is a step in that direction!
We have handed the manual in to DCS and will now add it to all Coach/Student Manuals. We are futhermore now seeking Regional Clearance to roll-out THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL regionally.
We have four Wednesdays in a row been brainstorming the ingredients hand in hand with the two newly assigned SmilingOne Programme Coordinators in Worcester Men's Prison and the Coach/Student team that was recently transferred to the Medium Correctional Facility.
The most exciting thing about this is that will assist to build a platform where inmates and DCS members work hand in hand, heart by heart and making a difference TOGETHER!
Change happens on many different levels. It begins with the individual embracing his/her responsibility. It is important with opportunities and channels to practice the change... to be given a chance to bring 'theory' into experience... this is how we learn to walk our talk. This members manual of guidelines is a step in that direction!
We have handed the manual in to DCS and will now add it to all Coach/Student Manuals. We are futhermore now seeking Regional Clearance to roll-out THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL regionally.
Opening of Group of Hope in Worcester Prison
Today I spend an inspiring day at Worcester Prison where the Group of Hope (GOH) had their opening ceremony, celebrating a woman's day event. If you know a bit about our history with GOH you will know that it was the group we initially started with in beginning of 2008 as we brought THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL to Brandvlei Maximum Prison. GOH focuses on skills development programmes which is an essential ingredient in activating A CIRCLE OF CHANGE. I feel very privileged to be adding THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL, another essential ingredient, as well as the Responsibility Coach Education to the process in Worcester Prison.
It was remarkable to see the SmilingOne Responsibility Coaches, whom we have worked with the past 2.5 years in Brandvlei, leading the newly started GOH in Worcester, all shining so brightly.
Worcester Prison has now allocated two members to supervise and assist THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL as part of the GOH activities. We are currently awaiting funding for this project - this will enable me to go on a bi-weekly basis to the prison. Our first task will be to create a members manual and then to roll out the process using the coaches and students (inmates) to facilitate the process to fellow inmates. The process is essential in building GOH as it serves as a wonderful empowerment tool.
Update will follow shortly...
It was remarkable to see the SmilingOne Responsibility Coaches, whom we have worked with the past 2.5 years in Brandvlei, leading the newly started GOH in Worcester, all shining so brightly.
Worcester Prison has now allocated two members to supervise and assist THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL as part of the GOH activities. We are currently awaiting funding for this project - this will enable me to go on a bi-weekly basis to the prison. Our first task will be to create a members manual and then to roll out the process using the coaches and students (inmates) to facilitate the process to fellow inmates. The process is essential in building GOH as it serves as a wonderful empowerment tool.
Update will follow shortly...
Re-Integration
Chris was released October 2009 after 10 years in prison. With him we took THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL to his community in Gugulethu. Chris is also in coach training. He is today in job with DreamWorkers (friends of the SmilingOne Family), he assists facilitation of the Youth Programme we run in Nyanga, he coaches a family in Kayelitsha and lives each day from his heart - truly walking change!
Thabo was released in April 2010 after more than 10 years in prison. Thabo assists both the community and SmilingOne tremendously in Nyanga. He connected us with the Nyanga Arts Development Programme where we today are running Youth Programmes hand in hand with the centre - in a circle of change. Thabo is committed to himself and change AND is a GREAT inspiration to those around him!
Farouk was released in May 2010 after 3 years in prison. He is in coach training and has such a passion for community and youth development. Each day he walks the journey by his heart - deepening himself. I don't think I have ever met someone as grateful as him. He gives thanks to all around him and expresses openly and freely. He has taken the lead on our Youth Programme in Nyanga and is growing amazingly with the programme.
Vaughan was released in May 2010 after 15 years in prison (on/off) and is doing his community service with us at SmilingOne - every Saturday attending and assisting the Youth Programme in Nyanga. It is such a privilege to have Vaughan join us. He is rather new in the programme - embracing it with all of him and I come to see how valuable it is to have these support groups in place. The journey is not an easy one - however - when we walk it hand in hand we are SO much stronger!!!
Thabo was released in April 2010 after more than 10 years in prison. Thabo assists both the community and SmilingOne tremendously in Nyanga. He connected us with the Nyanga Arts Development Programme where we today are running Youth Programmes hand in hand with the centre - in a circle of change. Thabo is committed to himself and change AND is a GREAT inspiration to those around him!
Farouk was released in May 2010 after 3 years in prison. He is in coach training and has such a passion for community and youth development. Each day he walks the journey by his heart - deepening himself. I don't think I have ever met someone as grateful as him. He gives thanks to all around him and expresses openly and freely. He has taken the lead on our Youth Programme in Nyanga and is growing amazingly with the programme.
Vaughan was released in May 2010 after 15 years in prison (on/off) and is doing his community service with us at SmilingOne - every Saturday attending and assisting the Youth Programme in Nyanga. It is such a privilege to have Vaughan join us. He is rather new in the programme - embracing it with all of him and I come to see how valuable it is to have these support groups in place. The journey is not an easy one - however - when we walk it hand in hand we are SO much stronger!!!
Sharing by Sihle Tshabalala
Responsibility Coach Student
B6 Unit
Worcester Male Prison
If you could have asked me about what I have written here three years ago, I wouldn’t have had answers for you; but today I can and it was made possible by the concept of THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL.
With the concept I have learned the beauty of creating me and discovering my being in full flood. I choose because I want to, not because of pleasing and surviving. My heart (how I feel) is the basis or foundation that I operate from. The intellectual pursuit deceived me from seeing, learning, understanding and growing from my challenges – therefore I realized that knowledge alone is not enough. It is imperative that I add/listen to be whole or one with my emotions. In that way I am liberated to be me/who I am.
As I have said, none of this would have made sense three years ago because i would not have known that there is a ‘higher’ way of being, that I am in control, that I have a choice, that I can live mindful and consciously aware of my life, that I am content with myself and accept wholeheartedly, that I am special and unique, that I can change and most importantly that I can inspire others as well.
LOVE, LIGHT and LIFE
Sihle
B6 Unit
Worcester Male Prison
If you could have asked me about what I have written here three years ago, I wouldn’t have had answers for you; but today I can and it was made possible by the concept of THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL.
With the concept I have learned the beauty of creating me and discovering my being in full flood. I choose because I want to, not because of pleasing and surviving. My heart (how I feel) is the basis or foundation that I operate from. The intellectual pursuit deceived me from seeing, learning, understanding and growing from my challenges – therefore I realized that knowledge alone is not enough. It is imperative that I add/listen to be whole or one with my emotions. In that way I am liberated to be me/who I am.
As I have said, none of this would have made sense three years ago because i would not have known that there is a ‘higher’ way of being, that I am in control, that I have a choice, that I can live mindful and consciously aware of my life, that I am content with myself and accept wholeheartedly, that I am special and unique, that I can change and most importantly that I can inspire others as well.
- I look not only around me but deep into my soul.
- I see not only the chaos in life but the orchestra of live.
- I speak not only the languages of tongue but that of my heart.
- I feel not only what I sense but sense what I feel
- I touch not only with my hand but with the fingers of my soul.
- I listen not only to the sound that surrounds me but to the beat that beats from within.
- I hear not only the noise of the world; but the voice of the universe.
LOVE, LIGHT and LIFE
Sihle
Sharing by Andrew Aloni
Responsibility Coach Student
B6 Unit
Worcester Male Prison
Before THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL process I was lost. I did not know where to start from to rebuild my life. I was in a state of confusion, even though I was attending programmes I did not feel any different. It was all in rush for a quick fix – all externally.
Through this process I have come to discover who I am without being told who I am. This is the great thing about this course, it deals right with my inner being. Being told how to live means to live up to someone’s expectations, which is impossible. Self Discovery means to live by my values, willingly, and not doing it for the sake of pleasing the parole board but for the sake of love and personal growth which I am gaining through this process.
I am glad that I will be able to continue with the process right here in Worcester Men’s Prison because the process is one of the greatest inspirations that I have ever witnessed to assist me in the process of detaching from any old behavioural patterns and allowing complete change in my life.
I am enjoying to live my life based on my values instead of the environment I find myself in and the usual pointing of fingers (blaming) which is just another way of denial.
Thank you
Andrew
B6 Unit
Worcester Male Prison
Before THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL process I was lost. I did not know where to start from to rebuild my life. I was in a state of confusion, even though I was attending programmes I did not feel any different. It was all in rush for a quick fix – all externally.
Through this process I have come to discover who I am without being told who I am. This is the great thing about this course, it deals right with my inner being. Being told how to live means to live up to someone’s expectations, which is impossible. Self Discovery means to live by my values, willingly, and not doing it for the sake of pleasing the parole board but for the sake of love and personal growth which I am gaining through this process.
I am glad that I will be able to continue with the process right here in Worcester Men’s Prison because the process is one of the greatest inspirations that I have ever witnessed to assist me in the process of detaching from any old behavioural patterns and allowing complete change in my life.
I am enjoying to live my life based on my values instead of the environment I find myself in and the usual pointing of fingers (blaming) which is just another way of denial.
Thank you
Andrew
Sharing by Luyanda Mboniswa
Responsibility Coach
B6 Unit
Worcester Male Prison
Firstly I think it is fair to say thank you very much to the SmilingOne Team for introducing this wonderful concept of THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL to me and the rest of the guys in prison. And of course I should thank myself for making my life a priority, because through this program I have finally gained my true identity and I embrace it with much love and confidence.
It is almost 2 years and 6 months that I have been part of this process. My life, my journey, has changed a lot to the better of myself and others. To realize that one has values, key roles and a mission in life is one of my great achievements in this process. I came to understand that they are there to be embraced and lived by. I am happy about the true identity of who I am, it makes me understand myself better than before. I am willing to also face challenges that I come across in life and see them as opportunities, assisting me to grow. I appreciate challenges as mentors in my life.
Furthermore being a Responsibility Coach™ - helping and guiding other fellow individuals has also helped me to grow as an individual. What I do, say and think is that of a Responsible Individual – constantly bringing awareness to the fore.
To receive a platform which is being offered by this process is a major mile stone for me, to talk about my past and deal with areas that were a taboo in life is a great achievement in my journey. And in this current place (Worcester Men Prison) there are a lot of emotions which individuals are avoiding to deal with and masks which we are so used to wearing.
THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL process has played a major role in encouraging and availing the platform for us to deal with these aspects in a more positive and mindful way. I am thankful for the process because I have found meaning in my life. I am aware of my re-active patterns and I exercise the powerful tool of CHOICE that I have in life! How I approach life IS a choice and also what I do and how I feel. So I am grateful to be part of this process. What matters the most now is that I embrace myself with love and trust as these are my values that I live by.
In terms of personal development and growth, which I personally am gaining in this programme, is so amazing for others as well. I would appreciate very much to see this process being implemented in all our correctional institutions as it is what we need in our lives!
With much love and gratitude
Luyanda
B6 Unit
Worcester Male Prison
Firstly I think it is fair to say thank you very much to the SmilingOne Team for introducing this wonderful concept of THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL to me and the rest of the guys in prison. And of course I should thank myself for making my life a priority, because through this program I have finally gained my true identity and I embrace it with much love and confidence.
It is almost 2 years and 6 months that I have been part of this process. My life, my journey, has changed a lot to the better of myself and others. To realize that one has values, key roles and a mission in life is one of my great achievements in this process. I came to understand that they are there to be embraced and lived by. I am happy about the true identity of who I am, it makes me understand myself better than before. I am willing to also face challenges that I come across in life and see them as opportunities, assisting me to grow. I appreciate challenges as mentors in my life.
Furthermore being a Responsibility Coach™ - helping and guiding other fellow individuals has also helped me to grow as an individual. What I do, say and think is that of a Responsible Individual – constantly bringing awareness to the fore.
To receive a platform which is being offered by this process is a major mile stone for me, to talk about my past and deal with areas that were a taboo in life is a great achievement in my journey. And in this current place (Worcester Men Prison) there are a lot of emotions which individuals are avoiding to deal with and masks which we are so used to wearing.
THE RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL process has played a major role in encouraging and availing the platform for us to deal with these aspects in a more positive and mindful way. I am thankful for the process because I have found meaning in my life. I am aware of my re-active patterns and I exercise the powerful tool of CHOICE that I have in life! How I approach life IS a choice and also what I do and how I feel. So I am grateful to be part of this process. What matters the most now is that I embrace myself with love and trust as these are my values that I live by.
In terms of personal development and growth, which I personally am gaining in this programme, is so amazing for others as well. I would appreciate very much to see this process being implemented in all our correctional institutions as it is what we need in our lives!
With much love and gratitude
Luyanda
RESPONSIBLE REHABILITATION Goodwood Medium Prison
Farouk is one of our Responsibility Coach Students. He is exploring guidance and deepening himself in this through having his own group of test-clients in our Thursday Circle of Sharing:
A part of his quarterly feedback report:
Each session was a gentle introduction of the concept, which allowed me the opportunity to learn about the current understanding and challenges of each test client. I began each session with an outline of what the concept of responsible rehabilitation entails. Then, I introduced the manual The Responsible Individual. I also explained to the test client (s) how the manual could be made to come alive by owning and personalizing the learnings therein...
MY LEARNING...
During the past quarter I have come to learn that each test cilent is unique in his own way.
Two, that they are my mirror and my gift. I always see a reflection of my impatience through them. They always provide me the gift of being patient!
Three, in introducing the concept to them I am always reminded that I am not there to teach but to gently guide them with an understanding that I am also there to learn.
Four, that I can sustain sufficient energy just by listening and observing.
SHARING IS CARING
Farouk has been part of the programme the past 18 months and is walking his talk, living change and responsibility. He will be released in May and will join us in crime prevention and management outside prison.
A part of his quarterly feedback report:
Each session was a gentle introduction of the concept, which allowed me the opportunity to learn about the current understanding and challenges of each test client. I began each session with an outline of what the concept of responsible rehabilitation entails. Then, I introduced the manual The Responsible Individual. I also explained to the test client (s) how the manual could be made to come alive by owning and personalizing the learnings therein...
MY LEARNING...
During the past quarter I have come to learn that each test cilent is unique in his own way.
Two, that they are my mirror and my gift. I always see a reflection of my impatience through them. They always provide me the gift of being patient!
Three, in introducing the concept to them I am always reminded that I am not there to teach but to gently guide them with an understanding that I am also there to learn.
Four, that I can sustain sufficient energy just by listening and observing.
SHARING IS CARING
Farouk has been part of the programme the past 18 months and is walking his talk, living change and responsibility. He will be released in May and will join us in crime prevention and management outside prison.
REPORT MARCH2010 - Brandvlei Maximum Prison
SmilingOne Responsibility Coach Team
Brandvlei Maximum, Unit 1
APRIL 2010
Brandvlei Maximum, Unit 1
APRIL 2010
Attention: The Head of C.C.Corrections
Letter of Aprreciation and Transparency
DEAR SIR
The above mentioned team of Responsibility Coaches hereby with gratitude and excitement would like to share the wonderful proceedings of the Responsible Individual Programme on the month of March 2010.
Days / Notes:
The above mentioned team of Responsibility Coaches hereby with gratitude and excitement would like to share the wonderful proceedings of the Responsible Individual Programme on the month of March 2010.
Days / Notes:
- Mon 01: No sesison - Mr. April was off sick
- Tues 02: No session - Mr. April was off sick
- Fri 05: the day was a success (1st + 2nd part of programme)
- Sat 06: the day was a success (1st + 2nd part of programme)
- Sun 07: Study Group - successful day
- Tues 09: the day was a success (2nd part of programme)
- Wed 10: the day was a success (2nd part of programme)
- Thur 11: the day was a success (1st + 2nd part of programme)
- Mon 15: the day was a success (1st + 2nd part of programme)
- Tues 16: No session. Mr. April left early
- Fri 19: the day was a success (1st + 2nd part of programme)
- Sat 20: No sessions. Sport
- Sun 21: Study Group. Successful day
- Tues 23: the day was a success (2nd part of programme)
- Wed 24: the day was a success (1st + 2nd part of programme)
- Thur 25: the day was a success (1st + 2nd part of programme)
- Mon 29: the day was a success (1st Tpart of programme)
- Tues 30: No session. Mr. April left early
This month has been a smooth sailing due to the support and commitment of the clients, Mr. M. April (case officer), Unit 1's management as well as YOU, The Management. This cooperation indicates the high interest in investing on the personal growth of each individual (inmate) and in doing so bringing Responsible Rehabilitation (RR) to life.
It is like Anatole France puts it "To accomplish great things we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan but also believe"
Here we are making a great progress in accomplishing a dream we as SmilingOne believed in... and you as Brandvlei Maximum Management and Staff not only acted on your plans but believed in our dream too! Thank You!
We are looking forward to yet another successful month of responsibility. May the 'blessings & light' be with you in all you do.
YOURS IN REHABILITATION
Mthunzi Skoji
Alfred Jacobs
Sibabalo Sotyato
Luaynda Mboniswa
REPORT FEB2010 - Brandvlei Maximum Prison
SmilingOne Responsibility Coach Team
Brandvlei Maximum, Unit 1
March 2010
Brandvlei Maximum, Unit 1
March 2010
Attention: The Head of C.C.Corrections
Letter of Aprreciation and Transparency
DEAR SIR
The above mentioned team of Responsibility Coaches hereby with gratitude would like to share the proceedings of the Responsible Individual Programme on the month of February 2010.
Days / Notes:
- Tues 9... the day was a success (1st + 2nd part of programme)
- Wed 10...the day was a success (1st + 2nd part of programme)
- Thur 11... the day was a success (1st + 2nd part of programme)
- Mon 15... no sessions / Mr. April was busy with TRC
- Tues 16... no sesisons / locked early due to escape of inmate
- Fri 19... the day was a success (1st + 2nd part of programme)
- Sat 20... successful day, Mr. April sacrificed his lunch to accommodate us
- Sun 21... the day was a success (1st + 2nd part of programme)
- Tues 23... no sessions / lack of members
- Wed 24... the day was a success (2nd part of programme)
- Thur 25... the day was a success (1st + 2nd part of programme)
Your support and commitment in making sure that this process is successfully running in Unit 1 is highly appreciated. Also would like to acknowledge the cooperation of Mr. M April as well as the Unit 1 Supervisors.
This month (February 2010) has been inspired by words of Eleanor Roosevelt "One's philosophy is not best in words; it is expressed in the choices one make. In the long run, we shape our lives and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die, and, the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility".
We are looking forward to yet another successful month of responsibility. May the 'blessings & light' be with you in all you do.
Yours in Rehabilitation
Mthunzi Skoji
Alfred Jacobs
Sibabalo Sotyato
Luaynda Mboniswa
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